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Why people rely on fortune telling
JANUARY 29, 2014 06:08  
A friend of mine likes to hear fortunes through Tarot card reading. She visits Tarot fortune-telling places when even travelling abroad. After her trip to France, she was sad because a gypsy fortune teller told her she doesn`t have marriage luck in her lifetime. But her grief turned to joy after coming back from a travel to the U.S., where a fortune teller said she would meet a boyfriend soon.

A middle-aged man whom I know is into psychics. A successful career man with high-ranking position, he likes to go to fortune telling houses alone. In his first visit he was told that he had a serious disease, and then immediately had a health checkup to find he was suffering from cancer. He has ever since believed in psychics. When asked if he asked about his fortune in the New Year, he answered with a smile, "I was told I will be promoted this year."

It`s beginning of the new year and I hear many people have visited fortune tellers. I have found that there is one common characteristic of people who often consult fortune tellers. They repeatedly go to these places until they are told good words. In particular when they have to decide on a crucial matter, they make answers themselves before going to fortune tellers and constantly visit them one another until one fortune teller tells them what they want to hear. For example, a person who wants to move home to the northern area is finally relieved only when being told to do so.

The psychology to look into the future is the same all around the world. In this modern world where people seek healing of their minds, many people try to gain psychological stability through fortune telling.

I once told my friend who is fond of Tarot card reading that if she had spent the money on marriage brokerage firms that she could have met at least 10 men. These days, however, I have come to think that money given to fortune tellers are worth it. It is worth spending money to hear words that give joy and lead to positive autosuggestion.

I have come to more firmly believe this when I met a career consultant who told me a story of his guidance of a high school student who was doing very well in school. The student asked the consultant the same questions over and over again, like "Can I sit here?" "Can I drink water?" "Can I go to the bathroom?" "Should I write with pencil or pen?" This was because the student`s parents had repeatedly told him, "You never do things properly. How can you live like that?" Negative autosuggestion had made him unable to decide even the smallest things.

Every person wants to hear good words and form positive self through these words. Thomas Edison asked why two plus two is four. If teachers had all scolded him as being retarded, we could not have earned electricity. Edison became an inventor thanks to his mother who constantly told him, "You are so outstanding that the school can`t follow you. You are unique in thinking."

The Lunar New Year`s Day is just two days ago. People will meet their families and relatives and chat. Words of blessings that possess positive autosuggestion will be needed.

The Rosenthal Effect, or the Pygmalion Effect, refers to a phenomenon in which the greater the expectation placed upon people, the better they perform. An expansive autosuggestion with good words can change the life of a single person.

Yet too much is bad as too little. Telling a niece who is not confident about her appearance that "You will become Miss Korea" will be just a corny joke.

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